This Some Real SHit Ben Balller was talkin about listen and pay attention

Do we love???

Do we love the way we say or think we do?In order for someone to truely love someone else, you have to try to understand how the person views the world through there eyes.the majority of people just communicate on the service.one person just talking the others just wating to get there point across,most people yeah they hear what ur saying,but very few listen.

facing fears

everyone that read this do as i ask!!!!everyone find someone that ur afraid to tell them something or afraid to ask them something. so find that person right now and close your eyes count to 5 then keep ur eyes closed still take a deep breath and count to 5 again and as soon as ur finished say whatever u was feeling towards that person or whatever ur afraid to ask i promise u it will be easy. But the question is why is it so easy? Think about it when ur stressed out or afraid u close ur eyes and go to sleep, when ur watching a scary movie and a scary part is about to come up u close ur eyes,when ur on a rollercoaster and a scary part is about to come up u close ur eyes. So why do people do that ,because u cant fear what u cant see. fear is by sight, sight of failer, sight of losing , sight of how ur goin to be viewed, sight of all terrible things that can happen. but truely whats the worst can happen? nothing if ur eyes are closed cause u cant see the outcome. My point is fear is no faith. God said "fear not". fear is a man made trait. get rid of it. u can close ur eyes in the beginning but sooner or later ur going to have to face ur fears head on, and the time is now build ur faith up. With the trust and faith in God u can accomplish anything. They say a coward dies a 1000 deaths a valiant never faces death but onces. what that means if ur afraid, u die everyday because ur scared to do this, your scared to do that, so ur not living, but a valiant faces everthing a lives there life. so face ur problems and dont be afraid. Amen

detaching yourself!!!

Buddhists say. "Dont cling to things, because everything is impermanent."But detachment doesnt mean u dont let the experience penetrate u. On the contrary, u let it penetrate u fully. Thats how u are able 2 leave it."take any emotion-luv 4 a women,or grief 4 a loved 1, or death. If u hold back on the emotions-if u dont allow urself 2 go all the way through them-u can never get 2 being detached, ur 2 busy being afraid.ur afraid of the pain, ur afraid of the grief.ur afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails.(Second is fear of aging) Fear of growing old and aging. Aging is not just decay. Its growth. It's more than the negative that ur going to die, its also the positive that u understand ur going to die, and that u live a better life because of it.

how are we ever prepared to die

how can u ever be prepared to die!!!
How can u ever be prepared to die? That is the question. They say do what the buddhist do. Every day, have a lil bird on ur shoulder that asks, is today the day?am i ready?am i doing all i need to do?am i being the person i want to be?THose are the questions u should ask urself. So u can live right every single day of ur life!!!So u live with no regrets!!! The truth is "once u learn how 2 die, u learn how live!!!" "Most of us all walk around as if were sleepwalking. We really dont experience the world fully, because were halfasleep, doing things we automatically think we have 2 do."but when ur facing death changes all that!!! U strip away all that stuff, and u focus essentials. When u realize u are going to die or could have died. U c everything much differently. Learn how 2 die, and u will learn how to live!!!! We are 2 involved in materialistic things, and they dont satisfy us. The loving relationships we have, the universe around us, we take these things for granted. Well just like everyone else i was one of those people until saturday night till i was face to face with death with a gun pointed at my stomach. The first thing running in my mind is this real is this really happening, it cant be happening, some body jump out and say ha ha ha got u. this is all a game. But know one did that , that shit was real. my life is real ur life is real everyone life is real. and we all need to focus on doing things the right way b4 its too late dont let what happen to me have to happen to u to make u realize that ur life is so important and u dont have time to waste. I just thank God im here right now i could be dead right now. Its crazy on the day that we was celebrating black mike, and propect is the same day i almost got did the same way. over what some materialistic shit oh wow. But that made me realize that God has something special for me he has big plans and im gone follow him and take care of them plans and everyone else i hope u do the same!!!  GOD BLESS EVERYONE!!! AND REMEMBER JESUS LOVES US!!!AMEN

confessions!2008

To everyone that reads this feel where im coming from. We as males have this problem called are EGOs and PRIDE.We let that take over who we really are as people and as a man.It took me a long time to realize that.It took many mistakes and m...any hearts ive broken,and many lonely nights, and loves lost just understand. ive truely figured out what was wrong and it was infront of me my hole life.all the stress ive went through all the stress ive put them through, all the yelling the crying, all the its your fault not mines shit. Thinking i could do no wrong. But if i only stoped and looked at a mirror for a second, if we all just look in the mirror for a second.We all would realize that ,the person infront of u is u..Dont look no where else for ur problems to blame the next. Dont point the finger just repent and change for the better. The lord helps those that help there self. ive helped my self and im trying help everyone that reads this blog this is my confession to all the women ive ever loved for all the women that have loved me back you all played a big part in my life and i wish that i could take back each and every time ive ever hurt anyone of u."IM SORRY"!!!!As God is my witness "IM SORRY" i just wish each one of u could be with the person i am now.So much smarter so much my caring more loving more understanding. Today is was thinking to myself i said "am i soft now or am i weak" what is wrong with me . im really not my self anymore the stuff i used to get madd at i dont get madd at anymore the stuff i onced cared so much about dont really mean nothing to me anymore damn i guess this is what they mean when they say ur finally growing up.And i give all the glory to God and the onces that loved me so much and u know who u are.To all the guys in the world treat ur women with respect ,hold them, love them, kiss them , like u never wont to let them go tell them there beautyful . dont tell them u bomb say ur beautyful. be with ur women every single day like it's your last. because one day it will be and u gone be wishing u could have change things and wishing u could take this back or that back and u cant. u cant turn back the hands of time so make them right while u can i use to have regrets i dont anymore im just thankful to have had the women in my life when i had them because they all played a beautyful part in making me who i am today and i thank them so much and i just want to say "I LOVE ALL OF U WITH ALL MY HEART" And thank u for the love that u gave me. And for those who have hatred in ur heart or u dont forgive get it out of u.Because if u dont forgive then God wont forgive u.REMEMBER that u have to forgive to be forgiven. Well i thank God for making me able to to type this for everyone to see God bless. Amen Thank

LETTING GO

Heres a saying "Don't let go too soon, but don't hang on too long." sometimes we have to understand how to do that. If u where ask to say ur final words what would u say? I would say "Be compassionate," and take responsibility for each othe...r. If we only learned those lessons, this world would be so much better a place." love each other or die in pain.We are all looking for a certain peace with the idea of dying. If we know, in the end, that we can ultimately have that peace with dying, then we can finally do the really hard thing. Make peace with living. but As long as we can love each other, and remember the feeling of love we had, we can die without ever really going away. All the love you created in still there. All the memories are still there. You live on-in the hearts of everyone u have touched and nurtured while u we're here.Death ends a life, not a relationship.There is no formula to relationships. They have to be negotiated in loving ways, with room for both parties, what they want and what they need, what they can do and what their life is like. In business, people negotiate to win. They negotiate to get what they want. Love is different. Love is when u are as concerned about someone else's situation as u are about your own.